Thank you!!! :)
Aw thank you so much! :)
Concluding last week’s post, I mentioned posting an entry this week about great gift ideas for your significant other in spirit of the holidays coming up. Well there has been a change of plans because something just happened this past weekend that I am dying to tell you all! Stay tuned for the big news!!! <3
As the saying goes, “home is where the heart is,” and my heart is with my soldier, Marques. I flew out of Vegas last friday to be back in his arms for the weekend. With the advice that I offer on the blog, I think it is only right to give you further insight on my own personal military relationship in order for us to connect!
From Las Vegas, NV to Savannah, GA I went! The long day of traveling was exhausting with a four hour flight to Atlanta, an hour layover, and another 45 minute flight to Savannah. On the bright side, this was the first time neither of my flights were delayed! I landed in Savannah (near Fort Stewart) around 10:30 P.M. and walking down the steps to baggage claim to see Marques standing there with a smile from ear-to-ear made the travel so worth it.
We had an incredible time. No matter how much time we spend apart, its as though we never left each other’s side when we are together again. We spent our time watching movies together, going to the mall, and just enjoying each other’s company for the short amount of time we had together. Because our visits are so limited with how incredibly busy we each are, especially during this time of year, we take as many pictures and videos as we can to document our time together to help get us through the times apart. This also serves for a great “Watch When You’re Reminiscing…” video in the future. (For “Watch When…” Video explanation and ideas, refer back to my previous post HERE.)
Overall, the trip was great, but as always, went by too fast! I’m sure all of you MilSOs can relate when I say the time leading up to the visits goes by entirely too slowly, but as soon as you and your significant other are reunited again, its as though life has pushed the fast forward button. The best way I have found to get through it is to not only count down the days, but make the days count. For ideas on how to keep yourself busy while also making yourself the best version of you, check out my Work On Yourself post. Also, a healthy and positive way to count down to your next visit or their return date is to download apps that do the counting for you in a personalized way! One app I personally have used that kept me positive and excited was Soldier Countdown App that you can find in either your “App Store” or on iTunes.
With Thanksgiving being this week and the holidays coming up, what are your plans with your significant others?! Let me know by submitting into my Ask Box!
Stay tuned for next week where I’ll be talking about great gift ideas for your significant other for the holidays!
I think you two can do it! If you’re continuing your relationship make sure you’re both giving it your all. You can’t make it work if one of you or both of you are doubtful and only half way in. Just remember love is greater than distance!
I think it comes down to how much you two really love and care about each other, whether you are willing to wait it out no matter how much longer it’ll be until you can meet. Do you know how long he’ll be stationed there? Distance is incredibly hard to deal with but maintaining a relationship through it is more than possible if both of you are willing to make it work.
If you are anything like me, you feel as though your life is a constant countdown to when you will get to see your significant other again. I’ve recently spoken to a mentor of mine who told me that I need to not count the days, but make the days count. By this he meant to really use this time I have away from Marques to work on myself, becoming the best version of me I can be. Your significant other is either away at training, stationed miles away from you, or deployed overseas working on himself to be the best marine, sailor, soldier, or airman he can be. It is time that their ladies not only “wait” for them, but work on themselves as well. What can you do to make yourself a better you while staying occupied and distracted at the same time? Below are some suggestions!
No, you don’t need a gym membership or a tub of protein powder! The good outdoors will do. Check out Fitness Magazine for a fun and convenient 30 minute outdoor workout if the treadmill or the stairmaster isn’t your thing.
2. Go back to school/focus on your studies
Just because you are listed, or soon will be, as a “dependent” on his orders does not mean you need to fully live up to that name! Its great that he wants to and can provide for you and your family together, but don’t let that stop you from getting your own education and studying something that interests YOU!
3. Do a random act of kindness/selfless deed
You know all those clothes you have in your closet and/or drawers that you haven’t worn in forever? Time to bag them up and give them to someone in need! Visit Big Brothers Big Sisters online to donate, volunteer, and learn more about the organization. You can also donate your time at your local homeless shelter. With the holidays coming up, you can put a smile on someone’s face by serving them a hot meal they probably have not had in quite some time.
4. Check things off your bucket list!
Whether it be taking a road trip to a state you’ve never been, getting that tattoo you have always wanted, taking a salsa class, or making your own pottery, the time is now! Get creative and learn more about yourself.
5. Socialize/Make new friends
Once you start exploring and exposing yourself to new interests of yours, you are bound to run into other people much like you! Get to know new people and expand your circle of friends. Go on lunch dates with your girlfriends. Loneliness can be a killer at times, surround yourself with positive people and energy.
6. Change is good
Life is only truly lived outside of one’s own comfort zone. Start small with rearranging your furniture and really opening up the space in your home, then maybe go a little more drastic and try that new hairstyle you have been dying to try! For tips on how to arrange your furniture so that it best suits you, check out the suggestions on Better Homes and Gardens!
7. Try a new recipe
One thing your man/lady is going to miss is a home-cooked meal! Practice trying new recipes and really expanding your cooking abilities before their return. For healthy cooking recipes visit Special K for a multitude of delicious and diverse ideas! If cooking isn’t your thing, visit a new local restaurant you have yet to try!
8. Decorate your home
When you wake up each morning, you want your walls to be decorated in things that will set the mood for the rest of your day. Have photos printed and make a collage of happy moments with your significant other and/or family to keep a smile on your face. I have recently done this using Shutterfly who printed my images and had them sent to my door in less than a week! They frequently have promotion codes that offer free prints and will make anything from photo books to mugs and phone cases with an image or images of your choice.
9. Keep your significant other in mind
Yes, you should take this time to better yourself, but don’t neglect your S.O.! Make him/her a care package, create “Open when…” letter or “Watch when…” videos (refer to my previous post on this topic HERE), or make something for him/her for when they return (i.e. scrapbook, build-a-bear, etc.)
10. Last but not least… SAVE!
As much as we love to think, “love don’t cost a thing,” the rent and bills do to keep you two, or get you two, together, honey! Whether you are saving up for a fun vacation for you and your significant other or plan on moving with them in the near future, it takes money! Save up now so you won’t have to stress about finances later.
Finally, ladies, its the topic we’ve been waiting to discuss! I have noticed a lot of wedding fever with your posts so I wanted to dedicate this entry to all of you hopeful romantics!
Want to know if your boyfriend is going to pop the question any time soon? Here are the signs to look out for:
Of course, every man is different and may handle an upcoming proposal differently, but generally, seeing all or most of these signs means you could have a ring on your finger sooner than later!
This week I wanted to address a particular way you can support your significant other regardless of the distance. If you follow other blogs such as MilsoTherapy or MilsoVlog (which I highly recommend), you have heard of “Open When…” letters. For a brief explanation, they are a series of letters all titled to your liking (i.e. “Open when you’re homesick,” “Open when you need a good laugh,” etc.), that you send to your significant other in a bundle. Its a great pick-me-up for your man/lady and shows your true appreciation and support for everything they are going through while the two of you are apart. Go HERE for further explanation, examples, and great title ideas!
Now, as you can tell from the title of this entry, I wanted to put a twist on this idea. As busy as I am, I find it hard to find the time to sit and write each and every letter so I came up with a solution. I personally have great interest in photography and videography so I thought what better way to show my appreciation than to turn my “letters” into videos! Not only is it something I was far more interested in, but I found it to be a lot cheaper. You won’t have to pay for stationary, envelopes, stamps, or delivery.
Basic essentials you’ll need to complete these videos:
I personally used iMovie to create my videos and the application is great about walking you through the steps when you are just beginning. The first video I created for my boyfriend, Marques, was one of me performing a dance routine I had choreographed and dedicated to him. Him and I both being predominantly hip hop dancers, I wanted to create a piece inspired by his style and choreography. You can view this video publicly on YouTube HERE.
Stay tuned, hopeful girlfriends out there, next week I will be talking about how to know if he’s about to pop the question!!